First of all, I want to say how impressed I am with your maturity and intelligence, especially for a 17 year old! Hehe you get +rep on your first post!

Long distance relationships (LDRs) can be a huge bitch. Distance is a huge factor, and you can't possible understand how hard it is until you are in the situation. I most certainly do not recommend breaking up for what "could" happen... no sense in stopping the hike because you see the bridge is out a mile or so ahead...

I am sorry that the racial issue is a problem... people hold on to these feelings of hatred and superiority form who knows where, and I congratulate you for being open and mature enough to not let it bother you. We really need more young people like you around!

I guess that best thing to do at this point is to sit down (person to person works much better than phone or email) and really discuss (and be honest!) what you both feel and want from the relationship. I would however warn against making a decision based on "oh, he will probably find someone better than me" or "statistics show these types of things rarely work out" but rather base it on your heart and soul.

Hmm... it IS possible that you can get hurt in all of this... just prepare yourself... the world is a sad, hurtful place sometimes... I just can't bring myself to justify breaking up with the guy (whom you seem to really like) just because of the move and just because of the what-if's... beforemy ex and I broke up, we lived across the country (U.S. and only saw eachother every 3 or 4 months on vacations... and even then we were 2 hours away... and we actually made it work for half a year... so it IS possible people! (of couse, distance played a huge factor in the breakup... so I will go eat my hat now

I guess, just talk with him about it. Have a serious heart to heart, and be completely honest with yourself, not with how you think you should feel or how he may want you to feel. Make sure he is honest too... because it would only hurt more if either of you regret having said something... so just tell him what you are thinking... you really like him and don't want the distance and space between visits to stop an otherwise great relationship... See what he thinks and go from there. Let us know how things work out!