Yes you are right. We have been together long and there was nothing about the date of our 'big day'. I have to say I wanted to wait a bit before we do it because I wanted to make sure this is right. We engaged just after we moved in to our first rented accommodation so I wanted to live with him for while first and get to know him better (and his kids). We had some problems but he was always to busy to talk about it. And everything went slowly wrong. But we had good time as well. And as I am an optimist (maybe bit naive) I though it's just temporary and that soon everything will be fine. I got better and better with his kids and now I really care about them. No matter what I still had a dream about us getting married and that is why we bough this house. Then we had planned to get married. Now like you say it's just an icing on the cake with this girl. But I want to rescue all this because it's not like he had a real affair. He can't see it's just an internet crash! He should stop it and gave us a chance. He doesn't and I know I should leave. He is not letting me.