I completely back vashti up. From the original post, I was like... and she is staying with this guy because...??? Sure, hypothetically every relationship can be saved, but it takes two people, and right now it is obvious that there is only one even concerned about it; you. You can make all the excuses in the world that you can think of to stay with him... he has noone else (well, duh) and frankly I believe that you are putting too much value on material things... the condo and your "financially-advantaged situation" there.... sorry about the dog, but they aren't people like you are! If you can honestly see no end to this frustration, then thank God you aren't married! This is why we date, to find good people and get away from people who make our lives miserable, which it sounds like your bf is doing. Again, make all the excuses and justifications and rationalizations you like about his past and his behavior/whatever, that does not change how he treats you, and right now he is treating you like your dog; well worse than your dog deserves to be treated. If you are unhappy and cannot find any way to rekindle that happiness and a real realtionship, then say goodbye. I really don't think you honestly 'want' to be there, just "sticking it out" as you said is a good way to waste precious moments of your life. I'm sorry things aren't working out, but there are pleeeenty of great single guys out there who will treat you like a human being. Follow your heart ultimately, but don't be blind with your head either! Best of luck with this.