Crap.....I just wrote a long response and then when I went to send it, it disappeared.....grr

Anyway, thanks for the replys

To condense what I had just written......we talked about going our seperate ways last night. It went okay. He would be happy living the way we are now, as all he wants is someone there for him.....even if they treat him like crap. (I haven't been to nice to him.....and have even started calling him some awful things). But I think he also sees that we deserve better for ourselves.

What we decided was that we would live together until he gets his license back (November). This would give us some time to pay off some of the debt we have together......not much but we might as well take care of it together.....as we got it together. We also need to get our other car fixed mechanically, and he will take that. I will keep the condo and dog.......which is great as I have put SOOO much work into both.

We basically live like room-mates as it is.......so by nixing our "romantic" relationship, it might actually take some pressure off of both of us. I know that I feel a lot of my anger and resentment because he is not doing what I think MY boyfriend should do.....and he doesn't act like I think he should. If we aren't a couple then I really have no need to be upset over how he acts (unless it is towards me or something).

I know many of you might think that "sex" could get in the way.....but as it stands right now I can honestly count on one hand the amount of times we have had sex this year. No infidelity, just low sex drive that has come from his past, and spending so much time alone in jail. I have had a big problem with our sex life for our whole relationship as well. So if the pressure of "sex" is off our couple relationship.....then we might be able to just be people.......and who knows we will probably treat each other better.

When I think about it ......I would NEVER treat any family member or stranger the way I have treated him sometimes.......so it might be nice to step back and just act like "people" around each other.