You're not a bad guy at all dude in fact you sound like me. The fact is that if something's over it's over and life goes on. You might meet your true soulmate within two hours of ending your past relationship or it may take ten years. Who knows?

I've said it before and I'll say it again. I have a different opinion on rebounds. There's nothing wrong with rebounds if handled properly. Sometimes you can appreciate the new one even more after a heartache from the old one. Met my first wife within a couple of weeks after ending a three year relationship. After our five-year marriage ended, I met my second wife within six weeks. Fifteen years later we're all still friends and there have been hints of reconcilation BTW.

My (much) older Brother married his high-school sweetheart, raised three great kids, had a wonderful life and after 36 years she died suddenly. Within six weeks (without looking for it) he met someone new and they're now going on ten happy years. Who's to say?

My only advice would be not to dwell on the past relationship in conversation with the new one. Be truthful, state your case briefly and then drop it. And DON'T tell her you love her on the first date! That would scare anybody off, male or female.

Also, don't get too exicted about the new girl until you meet her in person. I have very limited experience in online dating (I prefer in-person social settings) but of the two dates I've been on one seemed wonderful, my dream girl that turned out to be well, not at all what I expected. The second was a girl who wrote me, I wasn't too interested but agreed to meet her anyway. When she walked in the resturant I about died! Looks, personality, sense of humor, exactly the opposite of what I expected.

Life does not come with an instruction manual...