Originally Posted by thinker
About the "all's fair in love and war" statement... rubbish btw... By "stealing" her away, you would just be showing yourself to be incredibly immature and by her being stolen, she would be showing herself to be an airhead... I dont mean to chastize you, lol you're not even the one suggesting these things! ::bad forum members::
Your use of the word "stealing" sort of implies that she is property rather than an actual person capable of exercising free will. She doesn't "belong" to someone simply because she is dating him, and you guys (and girls) shouldn't be getting too comfy with the idea that you own someone when you aren't even married.
I don't think anyone said (or implied) that the original poster should "steal her". On the contrary, we explicitly said he should not. But to let her know that someone else likes her (should things not work out with the boyfriend) IS fair game in my book. You can't steal the heart of a girl who is in love with her boyfriend. Besides, all he would be doing is stating the obvious. Healthy people KNOW they have options.
But I will agree that this poster shouldn't actually DATE her until she is rid of the last guy, and if she were willing to date a guy when some sort of exclusivity arrangement had been made with someone else, her character should be questioned.