The stuff they said is totally right. You also need to feel great about your body around him, remember that a womans body is beautiful. Also the pain is prob cuz he moves the clit "hood" and puts his fingers right on your clit. Lube will prob get rid of that pain (never used it before on a girl, but I should) or just have him rub around the hood and just right on top of it but don't touch the clit directly. Also it's called the g-spot. That's if you don't mind his fingers inside you. lay down on your back and have him put his fingers in a come hither motion and tell him what you like. No pain, just fun. Remember relax, know your beautiful, and have fun. You'll be gettin off in no time.

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