Mathias and I both have this- an ex we can't forget.

My story: Whirlwind romance 12 years ago, I broke up with him because I'm a fool but we stayed in touch, I was with my husband for almost 11 years, we got divorced, now I want my ex back.

I went to see him in California last month and we reconnected in a very physical way. Now we are e-mailing and talking on the phone, but not enough for my taste, and we're both pretty stumped about what to do with this whole California / New Mexico problem. Neither of us is planning to relocate.

What about you, Mathias?