To get a little background on this topic, please refer to this thread She Cheated, I'm Crushed

A little background about this girl. All my life I have dreamed of meeting someone like her. I've always hoped that someone like her existed and had pretty much decided I was never going to meet her. Then she came into my life. So yes, it was love at first sight, in fact, I loved her before I even knew she existed.

That god-damn "friend" of mine caused a huge fight between us and while she was cooling off he swooped in and got a little makeout action. This opened up a rift between us that never healed. Additionally her dad got sick and a rare condition faces her with the very real possibility of losing her arms. To deal with all that (plus a second masters and PhD) she dumped me about a month ago. Suffice to say, I'm hurt. She isn't dating anyone right now, just wants to be single, I'm doing my best to let her. I'm trying to stay friends with her, we text and talk and hang out on several occasions every week. We've still had a small bit of romance in the last month too.

The way I feel about the "friend" though. I hate him. I've never hated anyone and I hate this guy. I wish him the worst in life. I want everything bad to happen to him. I want him to get fired from his job, arrested, butt-raped, and get the clap in his ass. Then I want to see a donkey kick him square in the balls. After an initial blowup, he apologized and they are good friends. Nothing romantic, just friends. I've made it a point to avoid him. I've lost his number and I won't be somewhere if he's there. I don't want to see him, I don't want to get over it. The way I see it, my life would be better had I never met him.

It's hard on her though. We're still close friends, and those two are friends. She has to plan around us, because (trust me) there will be a fight if I ever see him. He betrayed our friendship and I can't let it go. In the last week my doctor has put me on Celexa (an antidepressant). It helps a little but this whole situation is killing me and her.

I don't even know what advice I want. I just want to offer her support in a stress free environment. I don't want to hate anymore. I just want to be who I used to be.