You see the thing is, is that I'm a virgin (Gosh I can hear most of you laughing at me right now), but my boyfriend isn't.
No one's laughing. I'm a virgin too. There. So if anyone's GOING to laugh, you'll have a partner through it.
I was wondering how some of you cope with the feelings of maybe thinking of being compared to a past lover(s) in your s.o's past. (if you or them weren't the first).
My ex was more experienced than I was in the intamacy area. She was my first everything. And I mean EVERYTHING from a french kiss on up the ladder. However she's done stuff with other guys. Most of the stuff she did she ended up regretting because the guys would use her and leave her once they got a little action. However, I felt good because I was her longest relationship and I could tell she cared about me. To me, it's not "what she's done with others" but rather "How she feels about doing them with me."
Sometimes I think maybe I should break things off with him in order to stop feeling so insecure, so that he'd be better off with someone at his level of experience, it seems like all guys would rather be with an experienced girl, rather than one they would have to 'teach' and didn't have a clue as to what she is doing.
Actually, most guys
I know would rather have a girl that DOESN'T have too much experience. They feel safer in all different areas (not being compared to ex's like you are worrying about, STD-wise) plus there's a certain "pride" of knowing that YOU were the one that she decided to sleep first with. It's not always a bad thing of "Yeah.
I got to pop her cherry!" but can also be a good thing as though, "Wow. I can't believe she chose me to do this with. She must really really love me enough to do this for/with me."
As for breaking it off, doesn't seem like he's DOING anything wrong in the relationship with you so if you want to break it off because of his past, that's up to you. If you feel that you can put it behind you, then go ahead. Seems like a good guy from what I can tell. However if it bothers you
alot, then maybe you need to wait until you find someone who's past doesn't intimidate you so much instead of continually wondering this and that.
Alexi