james_ wrote:
im currently attending college in London, and I’ve met a really nice girl, and I really love her, when ever I see her (even think about her) I get butterflies in my stomach, Iv been doing my best to make it obvious that I fancy her so that I don’t become to close into the "Friends zone" as id put it.

Here is some tough love for you kid.

First of all, how can you "love" somebody you've just met? You mean you "fell for her" like a tonne of bricks... People who fall in love as easy as you set themselves up for a life of heartbreaks. You dont even know her, how can you possibly love her? Like yes, love no. ALso why do you "love" her? Is it because of her looks or the way she makes you feel special cos she cares for you and returns your feelings... I bet its not the latter so like I said drop the love act or you will be her friend in no time... Women detect desperate men very effectively and make them "friends" they avoid.


Well anyway some days I’ve seen the way she looks over to me, and how she always stares me directly to me when we're speaking. We have a lot in common but im not sure about whether she likes me in the same way. I don’t want to ask her out only to be rejected and get into the "Just Friends" situation, she is always nice to me and I know that whatever I do in the end she will still be my friend, but I don’t want my first "asking the girl out" job to fail, I would lose all of my confidence! And I can’t handle that.
Dont ask her out, suggest a random activity to "hang out." Why be old fashioned and ruin this girl with your desperate "asking out" routine that got you nowhere for the last few years that you been into girls.
If she starts seeing you as a friend and then you "ask her out" then she will hate you for it, because you framed your relationship with her as a friend from the begining and then became a shifty prick and told her that you have feelings for her. Women dislike shy guys who need to become friends first in order to date them... they call them "wimps and nice guys" these guys never get any.

On confidence... first of all DO NOT TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY!!! You dont know this girl.. PERIOD! She may be a nun, she may have a boyfriend, she may be going overseas soon, you dont know her situation at all. There are heaps of people who try and meet men and women only to approach them at the wrong place at the wrong time... so its NOT personal. For ex: Bob approaches Kate at the grocery store and after some fluff chat, he asks for her #, she refuses because she is busy to get home and feed her pet, now if Bob met Kate at a bar the following Friday night and approached her, chances are she would give him her number because she is out and relaxing.
You dont know what inside her head so just suggest a get together and if she declines then no biggie because you did not ask her out, you suggest a meet up thats neutral! She has no expectations from this and will feel comfortable doing it.


Im 16 and I’ve never told a girl how I feel, I’ve never had a GF and I don’t know what to do! I need some advice, what would you do in my situation?...How do I take our relationship further?
Im not surprised how young and inept you are with women. Thats ok, when I was 16 I knew jack either.
Once again, do not tell women how you feel until after you have slept with them or at least in your case and age bracket, made out many times. If you reveal your intentions to a woman who doesnt even feel anything for you then you risk coming across as desperate and needy... women do not like needy men... as much as they hate to admit it.

Also you do not have any relationship with her so you cant take it further... suggest a meet. Since your young, I suggest you tell her you need to go shopping to buy some clothes and she can help you out choosing some clothes... you need a female perspective. Stick with that and keep it simple.

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