| Ok. Lets see here. You dont want to be tied down. But you dont want to loose him... hmm.. Which in turn means that you want to tie him down, but wont let him tie you down. He loves you, and you are affriad he will hurt you. ok. I get it...
First: If you really like him that much dont be scared of anything. There is a supernatural force at work all around us. When you are scared something will happen (him hurt you), it is going to happen. Its an unspoken rule. What you think is what you get. If you think he is totally in love with you and will be with you for all enternity and you the same for him, then its gonna happen. But if either of you is scared the other is gonna leave, then that will happen.
Second: If you really dont want to be with this guy and you seriously want to break up, then do it now. Yes it will hurt him. You are way past the point of not hurting him by leaving. But the longer you stay with him thinking of a way to not hurt him, the more you are going to hurt him when you do leave. Trust me on this one.
Third: Overthinking is not always a bad thing. I do it constantly. Thats mostly why I change my mind alot about alot of things. Its also why I have many many mood swings in 1 day. Thinking can be a bad thing if you let it. But I have learned to control it somewhat. I still think like crazy all the time about everything. Lately I have been able to think to the point of perfect clarity. This is a good thing because nothing gets past me and I understand everything that comes my way. You too must learn to do this.
So yeah.
1) Realize that this guy is not going to hurt you unless you give him a reason to (thinking he will leave is a reason for him to leave)
2) Figure out if you want him or not - and do it today - if you dont want him, leave him now so you dont hurt him any worse than you will tomorrow.
3) Learn to control your thinking by not trying to stop thinking, but understanding everything to the point of perfect clarity.
I hope I helped. Good luck.
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