Its like this until you have children of your own-you cant understand our point of view. As a parent you do your best to install the values of life and making the right decision. We can only hope that when theyre placed in that kind of situation they will use their minds and not their privates to make the right decision. Of course we're not niave to think they wont mess around...we just want them to understand the implications and the effects AFTER that short moment of lust. It doesnt last...

Im not going to lock my son up so he WONT experiment, damn thats ludacris. But the reality of it is theres more out there TODAY then there was when we were 14 and the last thing I want for my son is to come home with some shit. It scares the hell out of me to think that 14 year olds TODAY think NOTHING of having sex or messing around. You cant tell me different either...theyre not thinking "oh oh i cant mess around i might get something." No theyre not-my sons friends come here and tell me how they mess around and get hand jobs and blow jobs how theyre gettin it on with some chick one weekend and another the next. Theyre mentality is not of an adult and they dont make decisions based on the real threat.

So if you feel its OKAY for 14 year olds to go out and mess around and think theyre capable of making the right decisions your sadly mistaken. I know my son will mess around and has messed around-I cant be with him 24/7 I can only pray that with as many discussions that weve had he will make the right decision. Im sure as hell not gonna give him a condomn at 14 and give him the green light to have sex. He knows my position on it-and hopefully he understands and will listen.

Its his life and as the mom Im gonna make damn bloody sure hes around a lot longer than me...give him the right guidance to make the right decisions for HIS life. I wont condone these kids messing around and allow him to think its ok. One thing does lead to another...

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