You are avoiding the issue here. Perhaps because you're afraid of facing the ugly truth. Who cares whether or not they will have a long term relationship with cheating? Are you waiting for him to break up with her?
he told me that he didn't know if me and him are going to get back together (which i really dont think is what i want)
Ok, what DO you want? Why do you let him use you in the first place? What’s in it for you? Why are you doing this?
and i know he has more feelings for me than just sex because of what he says and the way he looks at me...I know that she kinda caught him once, and he lied and denied everything...but thats what i want to know - does someone who really loves someone cheat on them? why would he cheat if he could teach his current gf how to have sex, and why would he keep wanting to have sex with me if he loves her?
Sorry but this cracks me up! Oh, yes please keep believing he only loves you. Or should I say he only loves using your body. By all means keep believing everything he “says”. Take this piece of advice: NEVER listen to what a guy SAYS, pay attention to his actions! So let’s take a look at his actions:
He broke up with you. 3 days later he’s with a new girl. (doesn’t look like he needed to get over you, really I’m totally convinced now that he loves you) He’s lying to you. He’s using you. He doesn’t want to be with you or he would have dumped his gf. He knows you do everything he wants anyway because you believe everything he says. So this game goes on and on because you don’t realize that you’re living a big lie. By the way guys who cheat ALWAYS tell horrible lies about their gf. And the funny thing is the girl outside ALWAYS believes it. How do you know she’s so bad at sex? Oh, I’m sorry that’s right. He TOLD you. But let’s face it you don’t know that for sure unless maybe you get a second opinion.
why would he cheat if he could teach his current gf how to have sex, and why would he keep wanting to have sex with me if he loves her?
Once again look at his actions and the facts. He’s with HER and not with you. That says a lot. If they don’t want to be with a girl they will leave her. Nothing is stopping him. She isn't holding a gun to his head. You know what, I don’t think he’s going to leave her. They usually try to stay with the girl who’s inside. You are trying to make excuses for his behaviour.
Please don't think less of me here, I know i probably sound like a tramp and everyone always beats up on the other woman, but try to understand...just some advice on this whole cheating thing...can you even have a good relationship and a long and happy one if all this is happening this soon?? any comments or advice would be helpful - I just wish I knew why he keeps calling and why he can't leave me alone...if it were just for the sex, he could get that from his current gf...
The one who thinks less of you the most is yourself. You have a definite lack of self respect. You’re allowing him to use you. Nobody is forcing you to continue this. You need to get yourself out of this pit and run away from him like there’s no tomorrow. This guy keeps calling you and doesn’t leave you alone because you are letting yourself being used. It’s available, you’re giving it free. Nice and easy. Now he can get as much sex as he wants. He has 2 places to turn to. You and his gf. Who cares why he does it? The fact remains he does.
His gf probably doesn’t know what’s going on. Hopefully she’ll find out and do exactly what I’m advising you: RUN!