Got pointed to the last posts by someone else (internet was down) so here's my response (although I should PROBABLY let sleeping dogs lie . . .)
I want to have the option when I go out to get with other guys. However I don't want to lose YOU. I want to have my cake and eat it too, so when I'm done enjoying this, maybe we can pick up where we left off.
Well, she doesn't 'get with' guys because the entire reason for the break is because I was frustrated that she wouldn't 'get with' me. And we made a pact that if we were going to get serious and fool around with anyone else to call the other and let them know so they know not to wait around. Also, it took me months to get ANY action from her so I know some other guy won't do it in a few dates (actually, most guys broke up with HER cause it was taking too long for them to get anywhere).
She's excercising the "Safety Net Theory" on you. She can go out and meet new guys and hook up because you two aren't official anyomre.
Without going into too much detail about the reasons for the break, this may or may not be true. All I know is that I trust her enough that she won't go beyond kissing other guys without calling me and telling me that it's "officially over" and it'll be the same with me.
You're on the side when she wants to date someone or whatever. And if she doesn't have someone and she's feeling lonely etc., that's when you two go out and "date" or do boyfriend/girlfriend things.
She makes it a point to go out at least once a week because she knows that it's 'outta sight, outta mind' and doesn't want me to forget about her. So it's not a 'lonely' thing.
Do exactly what she's doing, get dates of your own and girls to hang out with.
'Tis exactly what I'm doing.
Anyways, update on the situation, the other guy never talked to her again about going with her for the belly ring so I'm assuming it was one of those situations where you talk to someone and tell them, "Yeah definitely we'll go together!" knowing fully in your head that you never will. You know what I'm talking about. "Let's grab lunch together and talk about good 'ol times!" "Yeah! Sure thing!" while both people knowing it won't happen. So this isn't even an issue anymore.
Alexi