Alexi - try romancing yourself once in while. Cook yourself a romantic candlelight dinner. Bring yourself flowers. You need to show yourself that you care, and it's not just wham-bam-thank you hand.
Maybe this weekend I'll throw on a good 'ol barry white CD, draw myself a bubble bath with some sea salts, by a bottle of New Jersey's finest, and see where the night takes me . . . .
Hmmm . . . . but if I'm a little tipsy is it consentual? Or will I have legally violated myself?