First off, can you achieve one on your own? If not, then maybe its time to practice. If so, then maybe you need to show him what to do.

Second, your probably not relaxed. If you aren't 100% comfy, chances are it's not gonna happen. (I've been there and its very fustrating.)

If anything, you definately need to show him what to do. Guys can't read our minds (unforunately) and sometimes you need to help him out.

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