I've been in a steady relationship for a year and a half now. We are both teenagers, but we are looking on spending our futures together.

The question is: I am really jealous, althogh I most times don't let it out; I only do so when I am really reaching my limits. I know he is completely faithful to me, and I tottaly trust him; I don't trust them. He has his girlfriends, I never tried to scew up his frienship with them, as he has also respected my friendship with guys.

I once told him that it annoyed me that he would meet a girlfriend or girlfriends alone. He never forbid me of doing so, but when I had those invitations, I'd refuse them, because I am not the type: "You can't do, but I can".

I met some of his girlfriends and they seemed nice, I had nothing against them. One of them,"W", who barely knew me, even invited me for her birthday. He knew her on IRC and their friendship is based on the net, once they don't see eachother very often, despite living in the same city. I went to her birthday party and I thought she was really sweet. However, by my boyfriend's birthday, 2 weeks after hers, it all changed.

She showed up at the restaurant door and hugged him really tight. My friends were shocked, but I thought it was normal, it was a greeting hug and a birthday hug as well. She sat in front of him during the dinner, and, from time to time, she'd squeeze his cheeks, tried to hug him... She knew I was his girlfriend and I was sitting next to him! I wasn't feeling comfortable at all. When we kissed, she'd go like "stop that, behave!". She said it like she was just kidding, but I also say things kidding when I know it's bad to say them seriously.

We got out of the restaurant and I was with my 2 best friends and the boyfriend of one of them. My boyfriend was talking with his friends, talking to all the groups... when I hear my friend's boyfriend say "impose yourself, keine_Engel". I wasn't facing the group where he was looking to, so I asked what was wrong. I look at my friend's faces, they were stunned and just said "you wouldn't want to know", when I began hearing "W" calling me. I slowly turned around, pretending I was just having a general view, and I see her hanging on my boyfriend's neck, and he wasn't holding or hugging her. Then I heard her say "keine_Engel! He won't let me go!!" (and he wasn't grabbing her!! his arms were hanging next to his body!). She had been grabbing him for over 2 minutes.

Then, the whole gang went to a bar and on the way I told my boyfriend that she was pushing it. He said he was sorry, I told him he didn't need to say anything, it wasn't his fault, but hers. My boyfriend and I came to my house, to put down the gifts, while everyone else went to the bar. "W"'s boyfriend showed up and, surprise, surprise, she didn't touch my boyfriend anymore!

After this, I wouldn't stand her. My boyfriend knew about it, but he never stopped talking to her. And I didn't want him to do so, all I wanted was for him not to give her the intimacy for her to do those things... specially in front of me, I saw it as a lack of respect!

Thursday, my boyfriend told me he had seen her at lunchtime and that she had invited him to lunch in her house. That's all he said, because I asked somthing meanwhile. Today, at lunch, he tells me "WOW! "W"'s house is amazing!!". I felt a knot on my throat, I couldn't believe he had gone to her house! Obviously, I sulked. When we were having a walk, he'd want to hug me, I'd say no. I wasn't exactely silent, but I didn't talk much either; however, I wasn't agressive or harsh on my answers.

He eventually asked me why I was pissed off, I told him to think and he goes "because I had lunch over at "W"'s". I just told him: "I asked you not to be alone with girls, and you didn't do so. And had to chose her...".

Another thing that pissed me off, but I didn't tell him because I didn't want to mess anymore, was that when I sometimes suggest having lunch at my house, he refuses, saying he doesn't want to bother my mother. WTF?! He knows my mom for 18 months now, she likes him, he likes here too... he knows my mother for much more time and much better than "W"'s mother!

First, it was her hugging, like she wanted something out of him (actually, everytime my boyfriend, she, I and her boyfriend were together, she never touched my boyfriend...maybe she's aware that what she does is wrong and doesn't want to do it in front of her boyfriend....). Now, it's him meeting her at her highly probable empty house, after telling me he wouldn't be alone with girls... ARGH!!

I know I must be exaggerating and I'm gonna be flamed, but I needed to let this out! This is killing me... if he goes on with this, I will do exactely the same thing... maybe he won't mind, maybe he will...I hope he does, that way, he won't do it again... specially with that... BITCH!!

ps -- sorry for the huge post =(