my grandfather told me one thing when it came to hard criticism;

if I really don't like someone, then there's no need to give them hard criticism, because that will let them know exactly what is wrong with them, and how they can change.

if I really like someone, then they actually need to hear criticism so they know exactly what to fix.

when he told me this, he was talking about a soup place. he went in one day to get his soup, and he knew the owner. the owner asked him how he liked his soup, and my grandfather said, it's the worst soup i've ever tasted "no wonder i'm your only customer". the owner took it pretty hard, but asked what was "off" exactly.

my grandfather went on about how watery it was, how bland it was, how this chicken soup had no chicken in it, and only the black parts of the chicken. since then, the owner changed not only the chicken soup, but all other soups. before you knew it, his store was packed with people, to the point where the lines were too frustrating to wait on that people would leave.

the owner simply made the best soup there was around the area, and other soup places just couldn't understand it.

I think what i'm trying to say is that, criticism is the best thing you can give to a person. even if it's your parents telling you that you're never able to take the trash out on time, that's a good thing because it alerts you to the fact that you have to start being a little more responsible or better manage your time. if your boss tells you that you're doing something wrong, don't take it as an insult, "if you're doing something wrong, you get warned, if you do it wrong again, you get fired", so take this chance to ask your boss what you're doing wrong and how to make it better. not only will your boss be happy with you, you will be happy with yourself knowing that you're better at doing whatever it is you have to do.