Well, I hope that goes well.. just always be sure to be the first one to leave the interaction, and always leave on a high-note, not when it's drying/dying out..

It's better to have "her" thinking.. (Oh.. we were having such a great time but then he had to go).. rather than.. (Ugh.. thank g-d he left! it was getting pretty awkward/boring)..

Rule of 10: If someone tells a joke.. and it's funny.. then "it's funny".. but if someone tells 10 jokes which are funny.. then "he is funny".. Comedians use this during stand-up.. they establish to vibe in the beginning, use new material in the middle.. and finish with well-tested material which they know is funny..

Have 10 encounters with her, or 10 moments where you leave on a high-note.. and all of a sudden you're go from "that was fun, funny, interesting" to "he's fun, funny, interesting".. It takes a big man to be able to leave on a high-note and not try and push it further.. when you're on a high-note, you can only go lower! The conversation can only start to fall! So it's time to make your exit, even if just temporarily.. because she'll rationalize:

- We were having so much fun.. but now that he's gone, i'm not having as much fun.. therefore when he's around, i'm having a great time.. (let her rationalize this 10 times and you will have just succeeded in conditioning her to be more happy around you and like it when you are around)

- Notice how this is better than leaving on a low-note by trying to push the interaction further after a high-note: Ehh.. when he's around and when he's gone, it's pretty much the same.. Even worse! I actually have a better time when he's not around.. (moral of the story, don't push the interaction after a high-note, because it can only go lower.. be able to know when it's time to temporarily exit "i'll be right back.. I have to go to the bathroom, hold on I need to make a call I just remembered something.. etc")

A great way to pull away and come back is to "anchor" that "high-note" moment onto her.. (usually by sound "voice", touch "preffered", or smell "not a nasty smell, try your neck or arms, make sure they smell good and go close as the interaction is on a high-note.. she'll unconsciously register the smell and associate it with the high-note moment.. as you're leaving.. be close enough for her to smell you.. if you don't want to chance it.. ask her to tell you if she likes the cologne you're wearing.. it'll send an unconscious jolt through her mind that will bring her back up to those high-note emotions")

Notice how useful anchoring is to prevent you from making the mistake of pushing the interaction too far and falling into a low-note.. you can quickly tap into that anchor, regain some of those high-note emotions/feelings.. and then exit..

Again.. the popular HS kid.. you don't like him.. but he comes at your table and he's friendly, fun, and interesting.. he makes you feel good.. and then he's gone temporarily.. when he's gone, you notice that you're not feeling as great as you did around him and you're not having as much fun.. but then he comes back.. and all of a sudden, your mood is elevated.. but all he did was come back.. think about it!

It's sort of like pulling the plug on Christmas.. She's having such a great time around you, and so is everyone else, but you can take it all away, or keep yourself there where she can have fun.. when she picks up on this, that you control this social/emotional power over the interaction.. that you are in control of these feel-good feelings.. and she's no longer able to resist it as fact.. the chase has started..

Believe me, i'm a guy.. i've seen all of this in action.. and despite having it all work in practice, I still place Psychology under a chick-crack category.. eventually, and rather quickly.. the best way to learn is by doing..

"I hear, and I know.. I see, and I understand.. I do, and I learn"
- Negotiations Prof.

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