I can't speak for others, but I recognized very young (around 18) that there were guys trying to 'play' me for attention/dates. I spent a lot of time (nearly every weekend) sneaking into bars as an underage teenybopper, so this was old news by the time I went away to uni & experienced that social scene.

I think you aren't giving smart girls credit for seeing things as they are. And, as you admit, women do talk. I am quite open to young females & males about what to expect in certain social situations.