Originally Posted by
Only-virgins 
Yea but I don't know what to say. I have a feeling that I will just thank her, take it, and it will end at that........By the way, four guys are after this girl constantly and she talks to them so the competition sucks. I could swear though that she was looking at me a lot and her eyes look like big black buttons....I think she likes me and I have a feeling I'm gonna **** this up. :O(
First thing is first.. a look at an irrational emotion when it comes to the opposite sex; fear
There are many reasons for feeling this fear, and once upon a time, it was critical to your survival, but today, this sense of fear is completely irrational, and as a man of science, i'm sure you'll make note of the rationality behind all this..
1. Fear of her having a bf, and having his bf and his friends giving you a piece of their mind!
2. Fear of her rejecting you, and then her going back to her friends (the remainder of your mating options) and telling them that you did not qualify as a mate; therefore rendering your chances of reproduction to zero!
3. Fear of you not being good enough for her (preventive of 2), and of you doing something dumb that will "mess-it-up" (again, preventive of 2)
The reality is, that the first two fears are irrational in today's day and age:
1. When you hear about two people getting married, you get a feeling.. you feel happy.. even if those people are not you.. even if you don't even know them.. the concept of marriage is a happy one.. it's a social "wedlock" that shows that two people are going to create children, raise them in a stable environment, for the benefit of humanity.. This is good for everyone, so as social creatures, we want to encourage this.. as much as possible.. this is why we feel happy when people get married, judge people or get sad when people get divorced, and feel angry towards people or even guilty of going after someone who is already in a relationship leading to marriage.. if society DIDN'T have a problem with this, there would be a lot of counterproductive friction in the entire mating process.. But you're NOT comming in the way of her and her bf.. you're NEVER triggering that reaction from society.. (directly).. all you are doing is DHV-ing.. being yourself.. it's not your fault if she feels attracted to you.. because it's not like you were DOING anything to put-down her bf or force yourself on to her.. no.. IF (big "if") she has a bf, you DHV & BFD.. and BFD-ing is (indirect).. for all her bf, her friends, his friends, and she knows.. you've always liked her bf, had nothing but "good" things to say about him, and always had his back and "stood-up-for" him.. the only thing that will have seemed to have happened is that SHE grew less and less attracted/connected to her bf.. and more and more attracted/connected to you.. by her own free-will and CHOICE..
which leaves the rest of society off your back.. for as long as you take this indirect approach.. this little issue, is not something you should ever worry about..
2. Unless you live in some village or township of 2,000 people or less.. this fear does not apply.. It definitely doesn't apply in major cities.. Look at your census data, and estimate how many women around your age range you have.. of that number.. take 1% (let's be conservative, let's pretend you're being very picky and won't settle for anything less than almost perfect).. now, for every 3 women.. you can afford 1 rejection.. how many rejections can you afford in total? Wow! Now, invert that.. 1/total rejections you can afford.. How much does each rejection matter? Not that much.. IF (big "if") you miscalibrate, and you encounter something like a rejection, you still have so many other chances for that (ideal 1%).. so think of that number as your chances to learn from your mistakes.. the mistakes you can afford to make.. and learn the most you can from each.. so you don't make it again in the future..
3. This one is complicated.. part of it is taken care of through self-awareness and realization of your own value.. that helps take care of the issue of "feeling like you're not good enough for her".. but there's much more to that.. it's a great first step.. but there are more steps that follow..