I'm crying reading through all of your posts, and of course laughed at Raver's!

It has taken a tole on my health AGAIN.

My hubby has been so supportive, and ALL of you are right. I've been under so much stress with Kyle and this just heaped it. I do feel like Ive been a great mother and I know Kyle knows it. When we said our bye's Kyle and I both sobbed. I find that normal, he didnt, but his family is not emotional.

I couldnt sleep lastnight thinking over and over (damn I wish that were one thing I could change about myself) Im becoming angry with my mom. For weeks she harped about not wanting Kyle up there, she didnt want to deal with him didnt want his BS, etc. And lastnight she was just being out of control. Through the last few days I've caught in her so many lies its sad.

Ive always been close to her like she's my best friend and Im so hurt to feel like she turned on me.

Anyway, thank you all so much, reading this has helped immensely.

My brother who told the secret, was also abused by the same relative and he's had a harder time dealing with it. He just HAD to say something. He was so tired of holding it in. I'm not mad at him for telling, my grandmother whose 81 cant cope with it now. I do feel bad about that. But I cant feel bad for everyone else.

Chris called my mom the other day and let her have it. Of course she's all like "Well, what would have you done" She didnt do anything when I told her. I dont know what I expected her to do, but certainly not react this way now that's it out.

My dad did know too. And it was swept under the carpet the last 15 yrs. Guess my parents just couldnt believe it happened and chose to ignore it.

I'm going to try and let this go and move on with my life like Ive done.

thank you all so very very very much. I love this place.

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