You say the guy kissed you? And there was no kissing back on your part, not even a little?

We all do really stupid things when drunk. You're hard pressed to find a drinker who doesn't have a "Oh man, this one time when I was plastered..." story. The bright side to all of this is that you did not sleep with the guy. Obviously guilt over this was eating you alive so you told your boyfriend to absolve yourself. What you didn't realize is that you took this weight from your own shoulders and placed it squarely on his.

If you want to try to work it out (and I do NOT say this often) I think you should give it a go. Give him a couple weeks to suffer life without you and then call him and be perfectly and painfully honest. Be strong and do not cry. Communication here is vital and crying disrupts communication more than anything on earth. Tell him that due to the alchohol, what happened did not even register with you until it was over and if you didn't feel so terrible about it you never would have told him in the first place. Tell him this has taught you a lesson about drunkeness and whether or not he chooses to be with you that you will still be altering your behavior accordingly. Tell him that you miss him and that you have hurt yourself just as badly as you have hurt him. Lastly, remind him that you have not slept with anyone else and would never do so.

Even better yet, if you know of a stupid drunken activity he has participated in while drunk (painting the neighbor's dog pink, streaking naked through a Wal-Mart, etc) BRING IT UP. This isn't throwing his behavior back into his face--it is simply making your own point that while you may not have agreed with these actions you didn't throw him away over them.

You're not here for me to pick you apart for what you did, so I'm going to play defense attorney here and say that you should tell him what you told us--the other guy kissed YOU and you were just too drunk to realize you were being kissed and pull away in time. Offer to bring him with you to any further parties.

Lastly, tell him that you love him dearly, can make him happy, and hopes that he rethinks his decision and contacts you. At this point, give a sweet good-bye and HANG UP THE PHONE. Give him a chance to think about it alone before you start bawling on the line.

Best of luck.

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