Originally Posted by
Tedel 
Lesa, when you have intimacy with a man, I think you both have the right to know this:
1. How many other sexual partners you both have had.
2. Whether you have undergone any STD/HIV test after the last time.
3. What would you do if you eventually get pregnant.
Sex is above all, communication, don't forget that.
I always remark people should not have sex until they are ready to bear a child nine months later. Condoms fail, enough said.
Yes, I make sure we discuss all three topics before sexual intercourse. I think that it is necessary and have done it in all my past and present relationships.
I must say that #1 is difficult to discuss and I think I really don't want to know. When I was a virgin, I did not discuss #1 with my first partner because I thought that he did not need to know (I know strange). But it became a long term relationship but we broke up because he wanted children and I was not ready for marriage and children although we were engaged.
It is much easier for me to discuss these things with my new partner now that I older and wiser. However, I don't need to know the number of sexual partners he had (he told me, but it may be an estimate haha). What is important is his results of his STI/HIV test since last partner and whether he has desire for children and what steps needed to prevent pregnancy, and make sure he wants an exclusive relationship.