That's what I want to know..

I read through your post a couple of times, but it was like a total mind-fcuk..

I can't quite place my finger on exactly what your sticking-point might be.. for now it looks like a couple of things.. but it's not entierly clear.. I found your post to be a little vague.. there's no need to be shy or timid on here.. we don't know you, you don't know us, and anytime you want, you can ignore anyone or just leave.. no harm done, you have nothing to lose, no social consequences.. relax.. and just try and be a little more detailed and specific..

The only thing that's clear, is that if you're indeed over your ex.. but you were still motivated to search for LF, and make such a post.. there's something else in your life that's bringing those feelings up right now.. an other girl? see her often or on the regular? How long ago did you and your ex break up?

Also, don't take it too hard on yourself.. your first relationship is destined for failure anyway, unless the two of you are fairly new.. It sounds like the years went by, she wanted to take you in and change you into the guy she wanted, but was too frustrated that progress was so slow.. (that's ok.. there should never be progress in changing people).. But despite all this, there's an important lesson you should take out of this.. look at it in a positive way.. good..

Her frustration was not there because she couldn't mold you into how she wanted you to be.. The cause was you.. not understanding her or reading her well enough to realize what she wanted and needed.. When you failed to understand her, that's when she tried to mold you.. So the issue is with you, not with her.. and thankfully, it's something you can work on and improve in yourself.. The ability to read into people, and feel what they feel, understand what/why/how they're thinking..

For the moment, I think based on whatever you've said so far, that's your biggest sticking point.. You look at that new girl.. strange, new, unfamiliar, unknown, a mystery.. And you have no idea where to begin.. everything is unfamiliar, everything is a mystery.. looking at her and trying to understand her is like trying to find a hint of light in a pitch black cave.. And when that's the case, it feels like you're shooting darts at a target, with blindfolds on.. And you're afraid that you may hit the wrong target, push the wrong button.. but you want to hit the right target.. you want her to like you, but you don't know how to go about it.. it's a mystery.. you have no way to connect and feel what she's feeling, how she's thinking.. and that lack of information leaves you in the dark, and it's naturally an uncomfortable place to be..

Before you re-post with some more details to your story.. may I suggest the following read:

- You Can Read Anyone, by David J. Lieberman, Ph.D

You might want to get this one.. the results are instant.. because the system used doesn't rely on body language, intuition, or cold-reading..

Best,

GrkScorp

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