Yup I'm over my ex for good. She would have a problem with my best friend, she would never like it when I would go out but would always call me out with her friends or go with her friends alone. Before I knew it, the only social group I had were her friends. She completely ruined my social life. And she would also complain about sex all the time. She would tell me to get pills to try and make my penis thicker, or try and get some cream to make it last longer, and stuff like that. Then one day one of her friends and I were talking, and her friend really felt bad for me, so she told me that my ex basically didn't really have a problem with sex, but just thought it was funny to tease me like that. That's not my idea of teasing though. For the longest time, I felt like I have a problem. Like I wasn't good enough. And I even told her that she was the first girlfriend I ever had, but I guess she just didn't want me to leave, but it's not like I would. I felt pretty disrespected, so when she broke things off I was a little upset because now I would be alone, but at the same time I felt happy and liberated.

I'm sorry, I just got back home and i've been drinking a little bit. Things I know I need to work on are my confidence. Even though my ex's friend told me that my ex didn't really mean all those things she was saying, after 4 years of hearing them constantly, I feel like maybe i'm not really that big enough down there or that I should try and do something to last a little bit longer.

Also, the thing about not knowing what to do is spot on. I'm not afraid to admit it that I don't have the first clue what to do. I've never walked up to a girl before and started the conversation or started talking. I can't say i'm really shy. I'm a financial consultant, so I deal with people every day. But when it comes to outside of the workplace, I can't just want up to someone I don't even know and start talking or introduce myself. I don't know why, but I just can't do it. All the girls i've talked to in my life, i've met through friends and family or school.

Yes, lately there's this girl at work. She must be younger than me, and works in IT consulting. We met at a corporate culture event, and we talked for a little bit. It wasn't anything special, and she works on a different floor so there's not really any reason to go and meet her again. But she did tell me that she's going to be rotating and will eventually come by to our department for 6 months.

I'm not a big fan of reading, but i'll give it a try. Thanks

Should I get her some coffee or breakfast maybe just to be nice, or do you think I should wait until she has her rotation in a couple of months at my department?