Originally Posted by
Asparagoose 
Things I know I need to work on are my confidence.
I think that's a bit of an understatement..
Not to imply you have no confidence.. You do have confidence, but you'd like to have more.. the issue is, that the confidence you DO have, is not confidence you're happy with.. and it lacks sufficient validation from multiple meaningful sources..
So, whatever you think you know about yourself.. just put it on the side.. now.. just imagine a plain, white, empty room.. And in this room, you're going to start re-filling it, with "who" you are..
No, you don't care what happened when you were 5, or in high school, or with that girl you liked.. none of that matters, because none of that is who you are.. whatever happened up to this point, was a result of not being fully aware of who you are.. the result of this uncertainty.. but from now on, as you start to become more and more aware of who you are.. you're going to notive a completely new world in front of you, a completely new way in which people react and respond to you, now
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Was I a good student in high school?
2. Was I a good student in college?
3. Am I a respectful person towards others?
4. Do I care how others feel?
5. Do I respect other people's feelings?
I already know the answer to all these questions is "yes", so the point of asking yourself these questions is NOT to get a simple "yes" answer.. but to ask yourself what that "yes" answer really means.. what does it say about you?
6. Why did you choose to go into your line of work?
7. How have the events in your life made you into a better person?
8. What is the change that you would like to see for yourself?
9. What do you want from life?
10. What are you doing to get it?
As you think about what the answers to those questions mean exactly.. start to fill up this empty room with this information, with these ideas, concepts, and feelings.. this is who you are.. don't stop until you feel the room is full..
Now, start reading that book.. and look-up the thread on "Inner Game"
Best,
GrkScorp