Originally Posted by
Asparagoose 
But again, how can you just break down someone's character in person at the moment? I don't want to be walking around with a book on me when i'm talking to people and tell them to wait while I try and make sense of what everything they say reveals about their character.
Oh. Where did you get the information about confidence and awareness of yourself? It sounds really interesting, and i've started doing it but I couldn't find it in this book, so i'm guessing it's from somewhere else. If you don't mind, i'm really interested in finding out more on that topic. I think that's what I really need to work on, and so far, everything you suggested seems to be working. At the very least, I feel more comfortable and less nervous when i'm out in public.
You edited your post to say "Thank you" and you considered starting off an interaction with her via buying her breakfast.. hmm..
That's being a little too nice.. I don't care though, because i'm not a girl.. So, you're welcome..
Can you break someone's character down instantly and at the moment? Yes.. yes actually.. you can.. so well in fact.. that you break it down using SNAP from (effect) ---> (cause).. then as they continue talking.. test to see if you were right by what your predicted behavior would be.. (cause) ---> (effect).. and then use non-SNAP systems such as body language, facial expressions, microsignals, voice tonality & quality, intuition, and cold-reading to test for incongruence.. It just takes practice.. but it's the most natural thing in the world.. anyone can do it.. so the idea shouldn't intimidate you at all just because it's unfamiliar at the moment.. everything new and unknown is a little intimidating in the beginning.. but as you start to get better at it through practice.. you notice how much more comfortable and relaxed you feel when you're in the mode of doing it..
If you don't mind.. that's private.. good.. that's good that you're feeling more comfortable with yourself.. also good.. that you're reading..
Best,
GrkScorp