I finished reading the book. I just want to make it clear, that I don't have a problem reading books like that. When you told me to read it, I thought it was a novel or something of that nature. I don't like reading anything that isn't just facts or outlines what you should do. That's what I mean when I say that I don't enjoy reading. But I love reading those kinds of books. I went back to the bookstore to get some books on poker strategy. I play poker every weekend with the guys, but after reading the book you suggested I think it would be a great way to put everything I learned into use.

What I wanted to know is how exactly does this help me with the girl in my office or with girls in general? I'll know if it's love, anger, or fear that is motivating her reactions. I'll know if her perceived self-worth is greater, lesser, or equal to her actual self-worth and how that affects her actions. Basically i'll know all these things about her, but it's not exactly stuff you can talk about. Like the book says, people have a hard time accepting most of the truths about them and the urge to deny the truth is enough to destroy all the comfort and rapport with someone. I don't want to do that. How exactly is all of this going to help me then?

I like what you've posted so far GrkScorp, and it's helped a lot. If for nothing else, there's this total a-hole in my office and after reading the book and working on my own self worth and personal awareness he just became completely submissive today. He realized that I was aware of his actual worth, and the more he kept trying to intimidate while I wasn't adding fire by striking up any conflict with his ego, the more he realized for himself that his insecurities were showing. The story doesn't matter much, but the rest of my department thanked me for being able to handle the situation so well. I think it was a combination of both the book and just being more aware and comfortable with myself. I just had to get that off my chest.

But after reading a couple of the posts from everyone here, I realized that what I really want for myself, is more success with girls. Someone like me, for my age, with my kind of job, should at least not be single. It's very depressing going home to nobody but yourself, going through the week with nobody to really talk to. I just want that.