In the words of my friend Carla:

"Men are like purses.., you have those really nice purses that you can fit a lot of things into and is really practical.. but that purse doesn't look that great.. and you don't want to be seen walking around with that kind of purse.. then you have your favorite purse which you just love.. it may not look that great.. but it's comfortable.. and then you have these gorgeous purses that you'd want to walk around with for the whole world to see you in and die of envy and jealousy.. but those purses usually cost a lot of money or are an assh0le"

There are some things about the "nature" of jerks that appeal to women.. powerful attraction.. but women want more than attraction.. they took the bait.. they bit the hook.. and now they're hooked pretty bad.. very hard to shake it off and escape.. To add to that.., when they don't find anything more than attraction (the only thing a jerk has to offer).. they will settle for "hope"..

Add to this.. the desire for finding the "perfect man".. and when he's not found.. the desire to make him.. Jerks are natural attractors.. they're not desperate, needy, creepy, weak, pushovers, or clingy.. In a world of guys that give a woman attention and validation.. the jerk offers and escape.. he is a mystery she must solve.. he is a challenge she was waiting for.. Her tests don't work.. she has no control.. she does not know if he is interested in her or not.. and so she is chasing him.. and in doing so.. her desire for him grows.. until she finds it impossible to deny to herself what she now feels for him.. she now longs for some sign that he feels the same for her.. now the problem becomes the jerk's shallow nature.. so her solution to her problem is to "fix him" or "change him" so that he can feel for her what she feels for him.. and so.. she finds herself trapped.. until she realizes how futile her efforts to change him are..

For guys.. there's much to learn from the appeal a jerk holds.. how powerful of a motivator it is for women to act.. on how strong of an emotional roller coaster ride they go on.. and to what degree they are willing to chase just to get some attention, validation, or love from him..

For women.. there's much to learn aswell.. The appeal of the jerk stops at attraction.. (it really does).. because such strong attraction is built.. and such a strong thirst for attention, validation and love follows.. women are willing to do crazy things (overlook comfort & value) just to get something back from the jerk.. but all the jerk has to offer is attraction.. nothing more.. there is nothing behind that cloud of mystery.. and when that cloud starts to clear.. and when you realize all the time and effort you've been wasting on a guy who isn't worth it.. that's when you start to realize your mistake.. and how hard it is to emotionally pull away..

Powerful attraction.. that's all it is..

Best,

GrkScorp

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