I understand. However, I am not saying "I used to..." or "We used to do....or I wish he was back im my life". I am over him in that respect. My problem is that many of my examples that I have when I have a conversation to others whether it's school, business, entertainment (especially), etc advice somehow includes him. For example, I was talking to my friend about a project that he was doing and somehow I mentioned that I know about those things and can perhaps help but then realize that it involved my ex so I just let the conversation move on to something else because I am tired of mentioning my ex in conversations. But, I have practically lived my life as "we" because when he or I did something it most likely included us both in at least 50% of my examples. When I talk about a movie in the past, there is a 90% chance it was with him so I try not to say "ex" because I know I would be annoyed if my current boyfriend said that all the time. If I mention that I went to a concert there is a 100% chance it was with the ex. So unless I talk about my work or what I have done in this past two years, the ex most likely was involved.

I don't have a problem with the memories we share....I just don't want to have my current boyfriend realize that all the things that I am talking about involves the ex all the time. Therefore I just say "friend" just so that I can complete the story that I am talking about.

I guess I will have to deal until new adventures are created