Slightly related.. I remember telling this Serbian girl I was dating back in high school.. towards the first two weeks we were dating.. "you have such an amazing ass.. it just gets me so incredibly turned on.. you have no idea".. as we were both on the couch.. and as I did that.. I rubbed my hard-on on it.. she got the message.., and thought she would be "smart" and put 1+1 together to try and tease & please me..

In reality.., I wanted her to take my manhood and stroke it next to her butt the whole time.. she had the most amazing tan skin.. and I loved the contrast between her rich tan and her baby-blue or hot-pink thongs.. Could I have said that more directly.. I could have.. but it maybe would have given me a different reaction.. Try and keep that example in mind.. How if you want (C).. and A+B=C.. all you have to do is imply or suggest (A) and then (B).. and let the other person feel like they are putting them both together on their own without you demanding it.. and bam! You have (C).. (more on that below)

The first thing you really have to ask yourself is NOT what behavior of his bothers you.. What is more important.., is what behavior you want from him.. what do you find desireable? When you have a clear picture of that.. then you can work on getting him to drift towards those behaviors.. and as he does.. as he starts to be more masculine.. those behaviors will replace the unattractive ones.. automatically.. so there's no need to say.. "I hate it when you do ____ all the time.. it really annoys me and bothers me.. it's disgusting.. I hate it.. stop it! Grow up! Be a man already! I can't take it anymore! blah blah blah.." That won't get you anywhere..

So.. before I can give you a better and more meaningful answer to your question.. a more complete answer.. a more practical and directly applicable answer.. I need you to do just one more thing Stirfry.., try and think.. about what your definition of "masculine" is.. I know.. it's not easy.. but hopefully the following questions will help you come up with a good picture of what you feel it means for a man to be masculine..

- We form definitions based on models.. and we form models based on past experiences.. So.., as you're reading this now.. think back to some moments.., where you saw a guy, a man, or a masculine figure.. and as you think about those times.. try and remember what it was about them that made them seem masculine.. as you think about that.. try and also get a good feel of how them doing those things or being that way made you feel inside..

- Have there been moments.. either in this relationship.. or in previous relationships.. or even with other guys you were not in a relationship with.. that a guy has done something "masculine" that made you feel some special way inside of you.. where you felt more attracted and perhaps even slightly aroused or turned-on? As you think back to what that was.. try and describe all the little details about it.. and how each detail relates or fits into the definition of what you feel "masculine" is..

- Pick an animal or character.., one you feel captures your definition of what it means to be "masculine".. explain why you feel this was a good choice.. what aspects of this character or animal are symbolic or radiate this masculine energy? Why is this character or animal a symbol of this masculine energy for you? What about it is so raw & masculine?

(Awaiting your reply)

Best,

GrkScorp

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