It sounds like she is having a hard time making decisions, which is understandable considering all she is going through with her family. I think what she really needs is probably some sort of counseling. Do you think she'd listen to you if you were to suggest it?

If you love her, you might want to hold off making any important decisions about moving on from this relationship for a couple of months. It sounds like her life is too unstable for her to act in her own best interests right now. You might want to tell her you are putting your relationship on the back burner but don't plan to date anyone else, and neither should she until the rest of her life settles down. Just make a time frame in your own head about how long is reasonable to wait.

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