Don't mind that.., that's just Vash showing us how lady-like she is.. if Vash's advice is anything like her class.., you're better off seeing a physician to get to the bottom of this.. where one lacks advice.., she must find some way to compensate.. but I'm sure she means well..

Now.., i'm sure you want to help.., and you're thinking to yourself.. "WE'RE going to ____".., but you're forgetting that he needs his space.., and some privacy to get to the bottom of things.., your willingness to help is great.., but it shouldn't turn into you being on top of him constantly over this.. making him feel.. "he has a PROBLEM that WE have to get to the bottom of".., that's a lot of pressure.. and that doesn't help anyone..

Your husband has a mouth of his own.., he doesn't need you to be his exclusive agent.., He knows how he feels.., and he needs to be able to talk to someone with absolute privacy at first.., to understand for himself exactly what it is he is feeling.., and why he's feeling it.., and how to go about seeing the change you both want to see.., and AFTER that point.., you can come in with your explosive willingness to help.., and work on getting to that change together.. It's personal.., he's been clear about that on the forum.., and i'm sure he's been clear about that face-to-face in person with you.., It has nothing to do with you.., it's something with him.., and it's not physical.., doesn't mean you're any less attractive.., he even called you a 10.., it's something with him.. And right now.., he.., and he alone.., needs to get fully in touch and fully aware of what that something is.., and why that something is.. so you can both go about changing it for the better..

Constant control over him like a Big Brother-type government.., monitoring him constantly.. affording him no privacy and personal space.., reminding him constantly.., etc.., doesn't help anyone.., it just hinders any progress the two of you are making on this issue.., as do bitterness.., sarcasm.., vague "the view/oprah" type advice that gets you nowhere.. and him feeling pressure.., only puts the breaks of any progress you both want to see.., now..

How exactly did you find out he was on this forum.., and why exactly did you come on it? Do you honestly want to hear a bunch of recycled ideas of (oh it's stress.., this happens to married people when they get older.., it's normal for guys to lose interest during marriage.., ect)? Did you want to give missery some company? I'm just trying to understand your rational for stalking your husband at every instance he's seeking to make progress for the both of you.. and why he's stopped posting after you came on the forum.. maybe a physician is not exactly the person you both need to see..

Best,

GrkScorp

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