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married 
Well during the times when we were together before marriage he would always want to have sex with me and such. Well I thought it was normal for a guy, but for me I didnt want sex until after marriage. It was just a personal thing and I didnt want to lose my virginity. He would always tease me saying that once I actually had sex then I would want it even more than him. So finally we did get married and finally had sex that same night.
Well the sex that night was the best experience of my life. I just loved it so much that I really wanted it more. I just cannot stop thinking about having sex now. I've tried to "do" it with him without trying to sound like he was right. And that is where the problem came in. I dont mind accepting that I was wrong but I also dont want him to think of me as a wife who is slutty and just wants sex all the time. He is sometimes lazy, when I try to push him to start having sex, he becomes lazy and either falls asleep or starts to watch TV.
This thing with differences in sex drives is exactly the reason why I believe that no sex before marriage is a bad idea. The question you have to ask yourself now, what happens if he has a low sex drive? What happens if he's only interested in doing it once a week for example? Will you succumb to this or will you seek the end of the relationship? Because if you do seek to end relationship on these grounds in the future it will now be very hypocritical of you. You will become the person who prided herself on relationship always over sex to the person who now values the exact opposite. You will feel guilty.
Negotiation is your friend, this is the only thing you can do now really. Find out what his sex drive is and try to work with it. You will have to be patient and understanding of your partners needs and you will have to navigate very carefully around this sensitive subject area. Whatever the outcome of this is, you have to keep in the back of your mind that it wasn't his fault that you didn't want to try this out before marriage. He came into marriage with the understanding that you will accept him and his sex drive as it is.