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Old 21-04-08, 01:07 PM
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Originally Posted by lesa View Post
I sort of understand what Mishanya is saying Vashti. I know someone in a similar situation but all is well so far.

If you try out the goods before marriage as a bf/gf relationship involving sex and then a marriage is proposed, the couple is not wondering about sex or expecting the sex to change. Complaints of separation would not be expected because of sex issues if sex was discussed and tested before marriage. However, if the goods are tried out after marriage, then you expect your partner to be at the same level of sexual intimacy for whatever reasons and can cause marital issues if one is not willing to negotiate and you cannot simply breakup like bf/gf.
I think if you are married, there exists a much greater interest in (and obligation to) repair any differences (unless one marries poorly). I understand there is a greater risk invoved. My issue is more about the fact that mish seems to think that if you are a virgin until marriage, you have no right to expect a compromise.
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