Originally Posted by
Zaphod 
Thats the problem right there. However there are times when I could cum 3 or 4 times in one session, I even had what some people consider a male multipal or orgasms. I try way to hard to please my mate, and I just forget about mine. You can call it performance anxiety, but believe me.....My wife does not complain, the neighbors do. She'll testify to that...
Well, maybe do you think then that sometimes you try so hard to please your wife that you become over anxious under this pressure? And then, at other times when your mind is clear, when you are relaxed and free from anxiety and worry then you perform exceptionaly well? So well in fact that the neighbours complain about all the noise!
If that's the case then solution to this might be not so difficult. Somewhere along the lines of getting all of the expectations and pressure right out of your mind during the intercourse.
You know, I'll tell you something funny. We sometimes so compartmentalize our life that we get paranoid when something doesn't fit into our boxes and time slots. This may not be you, but I know a few people who run on a schedule, along the lines of 7pm Dinner, 8pm TV 9 pm work preparation 10pm sex 10:30pm sleep. Then 10:30 comes and the sex part is not over, "Wait I should've been finished by now, I have a presentation tomorrow morning, damn it whats wrong with this thing how come it's not over yet, the presentation, I need to get it out of the way, I need some sleep, damn it, I can't do this anymore". It's pressure. Anxiety. Need to fit into a time slot. Need to succeed. Need to be efficient. Things like that don't belong in the bedroom at all. The only success comes through sharing beautiful moments together, stress, pressure and anxiety free.