Originally Posted by
misombra 
i disagree. just because a couple waits to have sex doesn't mean they should be remiss about doing it right when the time comes. that's like waiting to do your taxes and then do them half-assed when you do, because since you waited so long to do them you obviously don't care about them, right?
Well, look it at this way, taxes are just numbers, ofcourse you can seat down and do them any time you want provided you have enough information. Here we are talking about something completely different, a sex drive. This is not something that you can just "fix". If someone has a low sex drive, they will have a low sex drive. If they can only have sex once a week, then this is how often they will do it. It's not like they can take a magic pill that will fix the sex drive for them. You can say a guy can take viagra and just stick it in and out, but without the drive this is all that he will be doing. Mechanical, boring, repetative, passionless, meaningless. What can you do? Demand? Complain? How will that make things any better?
Just to clear up any misunderstanding once again, I agree that they should negotiate, I agree that the they have to be understanding of the partner's needs. But in the end, she will have to accept him for who he is if all else fails, or else be considered a hypocrite.