Originally Posted by
vashti 
Maybe for him, but not for her, and her needs are equally important. A man who loves his wife would do this for her. That is what loving your partner is all about.
She would find mechanical, boring, repetative, passionless, meaningless sex satisfying? I thought a dildo would be more satisfying if it ever gets to that stage.
But perhaps, if she finds it satisfying and doesn't complain and as long as she's understanding of her partner's inability to do any better it may work out.
What my concern is are people who don't explore this area before marriage, then suddenly after marriage they discover that yes this is something really important to them, but their partner is unable to perform the way they want them too. So they start to whinge and complain, create problems inside their marriage because they can't be satisfied in ways they want. Tihs is what I'm opposed to.
Originally Posted by
vashti Of course, denying her pleasure that CAN be provided because he just doesn't ever feel like it can have an alternative outcome --> an affair.
That can be a slippery area. What if he can't provide it, but she says he can but just doesn't feel like it?