It's posible to love somebody and yet do little to show it. Especially after years of being together if relationship starts to stagnate with routine. It still doesn't excuse some of his comments like the one about your father.

But I think this is less about finding out who is right and who is wrong and more about finding a way to make the relationship work in my opinion.

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My Demon revokes any prayer
He's grown contempt for love and hope
He betrays trust, twists truth and fair
Indifference is his way to cope
Engulfing sound of sensations
He quells with voices of despair
And muse of short lived inspirations
Flees at the sight of his cold stare
~Moy Demon - Mihayeel Lermontov~