Originally Posted by
vashti 
If my kid's family was about to fall apart, I think even *I* would be willing to see a priest for counseling before I took the jump. What harm could it cause? You can still be mad afterwards if you want.
I think he may be right about your anger issues.
A bad counsellor can actually speed the end of a failed relationship.
I agree w/GrkS earlier post. If you've both given up, then end things as quickly & cleanly as you can.
If you DO love each other, tho, & want to make things work then find a GOOD counsellor and see if there's hope. Ask your doctor for a referral.
Try to avoid blame, btw. By this time, its definitely NOT going to be anyone person's fault. His neglect, your anger, whatever. Nothing happens in a vacuum. And don't expect 8 years of anger & resentment to dissolve in a single counselling session. It takes time. And you will need to
both be committed to putting in that time, so if there's any chance either of you are past the point of no return, end it & move on.
Good luck.