I think every relationship is different, youre emotional attachment to that person, etc. Your dependancy on that person, etc. You may very well have been emotionally DETACHED for awhile from the longer relationship than you realize. Maybe you had more attachment to this relationship for other reasons and not necessarily the man himself? Keeping busy is good, keeping your mind occupied where youre not always thinking and dwelling is a good start no matter what you're doing, your'e making the effort.
I wouldn't worry too much about HOW long it's taking you to get over it. You know that you WILL. As far as being friends, everyone is different there too. It's all in what your comfort level is and apparently right now your'e not there, again don't worry about it.
You'll be fine!
