Oh.., memories.., this reminds me of something..

I was watching Steve Vai with Goose.., and he was snooping around my library.., and came across a DVD on phone sex..,

Goose: This guy has made a girl orgasm over the phone?
Me: Yeah.., but that's not the best DVD to watch from him..
Goose: There's no way.., I have to see this..

We watch the DVD.., DVD#2.., and it's playing the recorded phone conversation of this guy and some girl he was talking to.., and within 5 minutes.., it was pretty clear by whatever you could hear over the phone that this girl was turned-on.., reaching into her pants.., and getting it on with herself while the guy was talking to her.. (that's ok.., that was the whole point)

Goose's mind was blown away.., he was laughing like a schoolgirl.., not because he found it funny.., not at all.., but because he found the whole idea.., hard to accept.., the idea that women want sex.., the idea that this is all it takes to get someone in that state.., and yes.., make her have an orgasm over the phone.., Towards the end.., he keeps telling her.., "slow down.., not yet".., and you could hear her.., she just wants to cum and get it over with.., but he won't let her.., enjoy herself.., and do what she wants to do.., (OVER THE PHONE!).., he's not there.., it's not HIS hand.., just with his voice.., he's torturing her.., how? (because he's creating a situation where she can allow herself to enjoy the sexual pleasure she wants to enjoy).., he is that to her.., he is that symbol of her sexual pleasure.., and he has the power.., to take himself away at any moment.., so if she doesn't comply.., he "click" leaves.., so even over the phone.., she's being tortured and made to sit there.., and beg him to let her orgasm.., which he does eventually.., after he makes her change the way she was sitting.., bend over.., get down on her knees and elbows with her ass in the air.., her face on the floor.., and reach behind to finish herself off.., she went at it for about 2 minutes while orgasming.., and was crying afterwards.., telling him how great it was.., how amazing it was to feel that.., and how unreal it was for her to know that she just had the best orgasm of her life.., with him.., over the phone..

I think that's mostly why Goose was so shocked when he watched and listened to conversation after conversation.., orgasm after orgasm.., just women on the other end of these lines.., getting off.., to a guy they just met the other day.., or a guy they don't even know that well.., etc.., It was such a powerful truth flashing before his eyes and ears.., overloading his senses.., and running directly against and clashing into his limiting beliefs.., women want sex.., they want love.., they want affection.., they want company.., they want it all.., and the source.., is men.., women want men.., welcome to nature-101..

But the reason guys feel and think differently.., is because of the pressure that exists for women.., to not telegraph this message to the rest of the world around them.., for all else to see.., the reality of the situation is still there.., those urges.., those needs & wants.., those desires.., they're all there.., it's just that during development.., there's a lot of pressure that exists for girls (that doesn't exist for guys) that causes them to hide all of these things..

- Feeling it's "wrong" to talk about these things openly
- Feeling it's "slutty/whorey" to have such urges/desires
- Feeling "good/noble" by acting as if they don't have such desires
- Not wanting to feel dependent on men in order to feel happy

Truth be told.., there's nothing "wrong" about it.., it's normal.., the reason she has a vagina.., is because evolution put it there.., for a reason.., and guess what.., becaues of that reason.., to achive that reason's purpose.., she has to do.., what a woman has to do.., to get.., what a woman wants.., her most natural want.., pleasure..

Now.., sex is important.., but it's just an example.., an extreme example.., but fitting.., because.., when you realize that.., then everything else will start to click.., her desire for love.., company.., affection.., care.., support.., protection.., friendship.., validation.., attention.., etc..

Really.., when you start to look at all these things.., you start to wonder.., why the hell you're even nervous or intimidated.., and more importantly.., why "you" are the one who is almost "begging" HER.., where it should naturally be the other way around.., you're both giving eachother sex.., and she'll be getting all these other things also if you choose to be exclusive with her.., you are a guy.., you have all those things to offer her.., so why then.., should you find yourself.., (or any guy find themself.., for that matter) in the position of begging.., chasing.., or "trying" to get her favor? Why?

What did she demonstrate that she has to offer you.., in relation to what you know you have to offer her.., that has made you feel the urge to chase after her or try and win her favor?

Best,

GrkScorp

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