I agree with this.., generally.., women like pleasure.., and dislike discomfort.., they will actively chase stimulation.., but run away or avoid an uncomfortable situation (unless they're bored.., in which case they'll either start drama of their own.., or turn on the tv and watch something sad.., some drama.., etc)

But following up to where we left off.., confrontation isn't always a bad thing.., it can be necessary.., to snap them back into reality.., and take them off their pedestle they're trying to have you help them sit comfortably on..

Example: There was a girl last week who saw Goose.., and tried to sucker him into getting her and her friends all drinks.., making Goose feel good about the idea.., and flirting with him.., until he would get them all drinks.., and then they would all eventually run off.. (he was really close to almost handing them over his wallet).., but that didn't happen.., before they had a chance to feel any sexual power over him.., I came in and asked "why?".., to recover they tried to make us feel socially awkward.., but that's all they know.., so I turned it on them.., made them feel socially awkward by actually digging deeper.., asking "why?" again.., and letting them realize.., that the only thing they had to add to the interaction.., was their pathetic giggle.., and a hint of hot-pink fabric from their well-thought-out thong-overlap sticking out so they could look "cute".., but that we both find it insulting that they think because that's worked on some desperate/loser/boys in the past.., that they would even dare try to use that sh*t on us.., especially Goose (pointing to him as if he was a pro in all this).., they all shut-up.., and after a quick & subtle apology on their part.., and forgiveness on our part.., they calmed down.., stopped acting like little girls.., became submissive.., and bam! respect.. (we'll see why below)

What does it mean to put someone up on a pedestle?

"You're so great! You are so hot! You complete me! Without you.., i'm nothing.., i'm lost.., you're the only one.., blah blah"

All this stuff does.., is hand over control and power to the other person.., It's funny to watch guys do it.., because in the back of my mind.., i'm always thinking to myself.., "women actively seek out control & power to validate their own ego.., and here are these guys.., just handing it out.., like it's on sale.., so while he's not getting any serious validation from them.., because she didn't have to work or do anything to get it from these guys.., she's still flattered.., but she doesn't respect him.., and is now actually put-off and unattracted.., and now.., he has no reason to have her around.., while he has just verbally expressed that she has this pull on him.., this is like handing a 10 year-old the codes to all the U.S.'s nukes.., what do you think the kid is going to do?".., this is putting this control & power in the wrong hands.., and unless you're looking at a very mature & emotionally stable woman.., 99 times out of 100.., you better just keep all of it to yourself.., and just never use it.., have the option to use it.., but never actually exert any of it on her.., (respect)

What I do.., is I farm for respect.., that's right.., and sometimes I get direct pedestle comments.., "you're so good-looking.., your ex was an idiot to let go of someone like you.., I just wish there were more guys like you out there.., etc".., but most of the times.., being placed on a pedestle is more subtle..

- Her Chasing
- Her trying to get my attention
- Her trying to get my validation
- Her trying to impress me
- Her trying to get me interested in her
- Her offering to do things for me
- Her offering to get me things
- Her trying to get my favor
- Her agreeing with things I say (very little objection; being submissive)
- Her explaining herself for things she thinks she did wrong
- Her being upset when I don't seem interested or seem disinterested
- her being happy when I seem interested

All this stuff.., is giving me control & power.., because.., as the other post notes.., it's getting it out into the open.., in her mind.., and in my mind.., and perhaps in the minds of those around us.., that (SHE likes YOU).., that (SHE wants YOU).., that (SHE needs YOU).., because of many reasons.., (you comfort her insecurities.., you satisfy her needs and wants.., you give her sexual pleasure nobody else can match.., etc).., for whatever reason.., she has accepted the fact that YOU have all these things to offer her.., but is not quite sure that she has anything you might want.., and so the chase begins.. (you can see the message you're sending when you chase.., as a guy.., "you have ALL these things to offer me (your body.., sex.., that's really it).., and from that alone.., I have no idea if you're interested in anything I have to offer you.., but here.., please accept anything I have to offer.., please.., let's hang out.., please.., let's talk.., please.., call me back.., please.., please.., PLEASE!"..

Best,

GrkScorp

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