This is definitely a lot of information to digest.., but if you take home and commit anything to memory.., let it be this post..

Forget about "why" women want control & power.., we don't really care much about the female ego.., all that's important.., is how to get mutual respect.., and the first step.., is NOT GIVING CONTROL & POWER.., and then.., GETTING CONTROL & POWER.., and then.., NEVER USING THAT CONTROL & POWER YOU HAVE OVER HER.., respect..

The word "respect" in ancient Greek is "fovos".., the word "fear" in modern Greek is "fovos".., an interesting evolution of language no doubt.., to respect is to fear.., to be afraid of one.., to be submissive.., to be dependent on them.., be it for your pleasure.., for your well-being.., your survival.., your children.., your job.., or your life..

A boss who is constantly making threats about how you will get fired "if".., is a boss who has no respect.., even though he has control & power.., he has no respect.., but a boss has this control & power anyway.., and to his employees.., he need not exert it.., the fact that he has it.., that he "can" exert it.., but chooses not to.., gains him respect.., it shows that he respects his employees.., treats them as equals.., allows for them to feel like people and not servants.., (again.., if they deserve it).., and for feeling that level of respect.., in turn.., they respect him..

You won't come across too many women.., who you like.., and you interact with.., throw your knightly gestures on them.., hold the door for them.., pay for their sh*t.., say nice things to them.., and then have any respect from them.., it just doesn't happen.., you'll always be the guy they have control & power over.., because he likes them.., he knows it.., she knows it.., and there's nothing he can do about it.., if he wants them to stick around.., he'll have to jump.., or else they leave.., end of story.., so they will feel they are doing him a favor.., be it a compliment.., being nice.., or even sex.. (that's not the kind mentality you want from her is it?)

Jerk Appeal: (note: you need not be a jerk to have jerk appeal)

Note: this has NOTHING to do with being mean.., rude.., or a jerk

The jerk is indifferent.., insensitive by nature.., he is unaffected by her.., in effect.., she has no control or power over him.., he doesn't put her on a pedestle.., he doesn't chase after her.., (given.., the jerk is often some gorgeous/rich/popular guy).., so she wants him.., that's obvious.., but he's not throwing himself at her.., he's not chasing her.., and she has no control or power over him.., but she wants him.., she wants what seems out of reach.., and so she chases after him.., to get him.., (what makes him a jerk.., is that he doesn't give a sh*t.., so he's just like a little girl.., he'll take that control & power over her.., tie her by a string.., and keep her there as an option.., that's why they call him a jerk)

Important: She doesn't chase the jerk because he's unaffected.., she does so.., because she wants him.., but can't have him.., If you think by acting disinterested or unaffected.., you're going to magically have girls chasing you.., think again.., She wants the jerk.., because he has something she wants.., when it's not handed to her easily.., and she still wants to get it.., she chases..

This is where you and the jerk go your seperate ways.., unlike an actual jerk.., you actually do care about her.., (this is why I have a thing against PUA's.., if you don't care about the girl.., then why the hell are you even bothering? and if you just want sex.., be honest about it.., don't lie.., these are real people with real feelings).., you care about who she is.., what she wants.., what's important to her.., seeing her happy.., being sensitive to her needs.., all of that.., and because you care.., you're not about to sit there.., and toy with her.., and abuse any of that control & power you have over her.., even though you "can".., you "choose" not to.., you don't want to disrespect her if she didn't do anything to deserve it.., if she's worthy of your respect.., then there's no reason not to give her your respect.., especially when you've earned hers..

Best,

GrkScorp

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