The best approach I ever made in my entire life.., was going up to a group of girls that couldn't have been more obvious about checking me out.., (no.., really.., target was in trance for 8 seconds and then tried to talk to her friends casually to pretend to talk about something else.., but her friends blew up her spot when they both turned around to look at me)..

Me: Everyone is getting pretty uncomfortable with all of you looking over at us ("us" as if I didn't know it was just me.., but I did them the favor).., but I just thought the polite thing to do.., would be to come over and at least say hi and get you all to stop.., hi.., i'm ____
Then: Hi.., blah blah
Me: So.., how do you all know eachother?

Total strangers.., and already.., all acts are gone.., inhibitions down.., all very comfortable.., because the guy who just came up to them is very comfortable.., he's someone they were checking out.., but he's not comming over there to hit on them.., he's teasing them and busting their balls playfully.., and doing them the favor of introducing himself.., and bam.., talking.., secure and comfortable with himself.., and that comfort just spreads to them.., things never turn awkward unless you make them awkward..

This is known as controlling the frame.., and we can get into what it is externally.., but all it really is.., is internal.., being secure and comfortable with yourself.., that's so powerful.., it's sexy..

George Clooney.., Pierce Brosnan.., control the frame.., without even speaking.., everything about them.., frame control.., you can't affect them.., they're unaffected.., you have no control or power over them.., there is nothing they want from you.., there is nothing you have to offer them.., but if they do you the favor of comming over and interacting with you.., you'll take it.. (to say the least).., Rolls Royce..

Guy "trying" to get her attention.., validation.., romantic favor.., sexual favor.., etc.., is someone who has a weak frame.., you can affect them.., you have control & power over him.., he wants all these things from you.., and even if he has something to offer.., you don't want it.., the more he tries to get whatever he is he wants from you.., the more you push him away.., he's the used car salesman who's trying to push a Toyota onto you..

The truth of the matter is.., as you realize more and more about how people in general work.., not just limited to dating.., but obviously.., since you can apply it to dating.., as you get better at it.., you'll start to realize that aside from sex.., there's NOTHING a girl has to offer you.., whereas you can offer her EVERYTHING.., including more sexual pleasure than she has to offer you.. (you can train her to be able to please you better.., but for starters.., most women don't have a clue)

A more painful truth is.., you don't really want to play the role of daddy or the prince or knight that will save her and protect her and give her everything she's ever wanted and more.., not if she doesn't offer you sh*t.., or fails to match what you have to offer her.., not every woman deserves what you have to offer.., and that's something you determine BEFORE you date them.., not AFTER..

If she fails to demonstrate to you.., that she's worth all these things you have to give her.., AND that she has something she can offer you.., AND that there are things about her that you like.., etc.. then why on earth would you just give what you have for free?

The question is never "if you are good enough for her".., the question is always.., "if she's good enough for you".., really.., always.., in the back of your mind.., in a nice way.., "why is she worth it? what does she have to offer?".., like my father says.., "she's bringing pussy to the table.., i'm bringing dick & balls".., it's funny.., but it's funny because it's true..

Most women can only offer you sex.., nothing more.., unless you enjoy drama.., issues.., and nagging.., If you have your life together.., you can cook.., clean.., have your finances in place.., take care of the kids.., and basically do everything on your own.., and better than she can.., so.., why on earth would you give her a free-pass through life.., on your watch? Plus provide financially and make sure she's happy and satisfied? No reason to.. unless you want to do it.., unless you love her.., but what exactly do you love about her?

Sex is the wrong reason to love someone.., as is looks.. that's not love.., unless you know all the reasons behind why you love her.., then you really don't love her.., you're just creating reasons in your mind based on her looks.., that's lust.., not love.., So what you're constantly doing.., is qualifying her.., asking yourself.., "is she worth it? what does she have to offer me? am I happy with just that?".., before she qualifies.., she hasn't really done anything for you to feel motivated enough to ask her to hang out.., or go to a movie.., etc.., why should you want to do these things?

Best,

GrkScorp

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