DD.., you know I wouldn't be posting this much.., if I didn't think you were able to take all of this.., and put it to use..

This is a state of mind.., realizing that things are a certain way.., and that your internal reality controlls.., so when the bill comes for dinner.., and you feel the social pressure inside of you telling you that because you're a man.., it's somehow your duty to pay.., because.. "it's the right thing to do.., be a gentleman and do it.., etc".., you are offended.., you take this to imply.., "hey.., wait a minute here.., we both had a great time.., i'm not saying that she was the only one who had a great time.., I had a fairly good time myself.., so isn't it almost unfair.., to imply that I have to pay for her half.., as if i'm paying for her to be here.., spending time with me..? Just because I had a great time too.., I should be forced to pay for the whole thing.., why?"

Or when the end of the night is comming.., and you have to go.., and you feel the need to ask for her number.., "excuse me.., is this really fair? Didn't we both enjoy talking to eachother? What is this saying about the whole thing? By me asking her for her number.., isn't it just saying that I enjoyed talking to her more than she enjoyed talking to me? And I find it very rude that she's just sitting there.., waiting for me to ask her.., as if to imply that I was having more fun than she was.., pretty cocky and egotistical of her.., and I know she's not a guy.., so she won't take it as token respect.., she'll instead actually feel flattered that I asked for HER number.., and not the other way around.., and she'll feel like she's up on this pedestle.., that's just very insulting.., I don't find that fair at all"

And after years of this.., believe me.., I couldn't take it anymore myself.., Goose flipped the radio in my car once.., and this commercial went on.., "Oh man.., if only I could get a date with Cindy.., I would sell my soul to the devil just to get a date with her!".., I almost got us both killed on the road.., talking about how disgusting it is that we live in a culture which programs girls to feel that they can just sit back.., and wait for guys to bend over backwards because they can offer sex..

But do you know what I really find most disturbing? I'll tell you.., honestly.., guys who can't make the mental leap.., and start asking themselves.., "wait one fcukn' minute.., I can sexually satisfy her way beyond what she can.., I can make her orgasm to the point where she won't even be able to satisfy her own self anymore.., let her experience sexual pleasure she can't even imagine exists.., and beyond that.., i'm sensitive and understanding enough to care about her needs & wants.., and insecurities.., and able & smart enough to be able to both identify them and comfort & satisfy them.., financially provide.., take care of her.., anything and everything.., I can do.., but hold on just one second.., why the fcuk would I do that for her? What can she do for me? What does she have to offer?"

And it all starts.., before you've even seen her.., before you stepped off your bed in the morning.., this is a constant mentality you have in your head.., this is your reality.., this is the way things are.., nothing said here is unreasonable or at all seperate from the truth or reality.., you can see for yourself that it actually doesn't make sense to do anything BUT this..

When you make that mental leap.., you'll realize how insulting it is for you to "try" to "impress" anyone to get their "favor".., and how you're not about to sit there and "ask" or "beg" for her to come out with you..

She will do so.., because she wants to do so.., no need to beg.., no need to even ask really.., for as long as there's attraction.., then there's motivation in place for her to want to do it.., all that attraction is.., is her.., seeing you.., as someone who can.., comfort an insecurity of hers.., or satisfy needs & wants of hers.. that's all that attraction is.., really..

Best,

GrkScorp

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