Right guys, I think I may need to don a hard hat and flack jacket after what has happened this evening! The other half came around on time and I was just finishing cooking diner that I had offered to do as a good will/calming gesture so that the fireworks didn't fly. Whilst I was cooking she was staring and smiling at me, rubbing my arm and brushing her hands across my hips, she then kissed me full on which (after a little time!) I pulled away from saying that it would not be good for my head! We ate and cleared up then went through to the lounge. I did not bang on about how much I loved her etc. etc. we just talked a little. She did break down and said that when she was here with me everything seems so right and felt so good and that when she isn't here she's thinking of me. She then said how messed up she felt because of her feelings for two men were not the same but they do conflict(?) Despite asking her to stay again she declined and said she couldn't. After a little more talking we duly went to bed and made love!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (messages, incoming!) I lay there somewhat aghast after what had happened. I almost couldn't recognise this person in front of me. I suggested that she had done so out of pity (although it certainly didn't feel like it) to which she strenuiously denied. She said she did it because it felt right and I made her feel like no one else could, and that something so wrong felt so right. With that we kissed and she departed, asking when she could next come around!!!! Now, with everything else aside I am really concerned with my wifes mental state of mind or is this a common occurence? I cannot see how she can go off with this other guy and then just over a week later sleep with me? Is she hoping/wanting to get found out so that he dumps her so she doesn't have to deal with the guilt of leaving him? I am pretty sure that this may happen again if I allow it, her final words were "he doesn't make me feel like you make me feel"!