Originally Posted by
Mishanya 
I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like she's using you. What stops her from having both you and him? It sounds like she can if she wants to and she wants to and you are allowing this to happen.
Originally Posted by
misombra i think she'll be back.
Originally Posted by
Gigabitch I don't think she has any reason to delay finalization of papers beyond the fact that she doesn't really want to get divorced.
I am worried about her mental state too, Down not Out. I'm concerned that she's heading for a breakdown.
Originally Posted by
vashti She doesn't sound finished at all, but rather very emotionally unstable. If you think you could get past this in your own mind, reconciliation would probably be the best course for your kid (assuming she doesn't have a history of such unstabe behavior). I think this situation won't last much longer, one way or the other, and I think if there is no resolution in a couple of weeks, you should put your foot down.
I agree w/all of this^.
OP: Like Vash, I'm also married a looooong time. Not that its an excuse for her actions, but is it possible that she's going thru some kind of menopause psychosis (not a formal term, lol). I've known women to go nuts during this time.
Either way, you need to put your foot down for your son's sake. Teenagers need stable homes, its a tough time for them.
The guy is an ass. We all agree w/you. If he had any class, and actually truly cared for your wife he wouldn't be going about things this way. You might tell her that.
I am so, so sorry you are going thru all this.